Ways in Which We Need Balance/ How Different Types of People Can Make a Better World Together If in Harmony

     Sometimes I think that no matter how much self help reading, workshops and study I do, I am not getting to be a better person, but perhaps I am too hard on myself.
     There is a good chance if you feel this way too, you could be being hard on yourself too.
     Another thing is, if you feel bad about something from the past, and it really bothers you, sometimes the things you feel bad for doing or not doing, could have been okay for the other person at the time.  One may never know this, unless one talks to that person about it. 
     Often our egos think that everything revolves around us, and sometimes that can lead us to think that the thing we feel guilty about, is what the other person's perception is.  It is not always about us.  Sometimes it is more about them, and their relationship to someone besides us, that needed fostering, nurturing or growth.  We tend to see the world as always being about ourselves, but that is just the ego.  Guilt can be ego as much as other emotions, such as anger and hurt feelings. 
     I am not saying that no one is entitled to these, but like Marianne Williamson says, and Wayne Dyer as well, if we were to fill ourselves with just love, our lives would be better.  There would be no room for a neurotic thought, even.
     I talk a lot and often, about a Course in Miracles, which is not a religion.  It is actually, technically considered a spiritually based psychotherapy.  That is right - psychotherapy.
     Now, when it comes to balance, and the people in our lives, many of us are parents.  Many of us are not parents, either by choice or by not being able to have children.  I think we need to have friends at every station, and every point of view.  For example, I am a mother, but I have women friends my age, who do not have children.  Many times, people with children, will say, "you wouldn't understand if you have not been a parent."  Yes, that may be true in part, but your childless friend may be able to be objective about parenthood, and have some refreshing ideas, that you may not have thought of yourself. 
     Even if someone has never been a parent, they have probably had parents, or at least one parent, at one time.  They may have life experience, so they could have insight into parenting, and the objectivity of not being a parent can be an asset.  This is just something I thought of today.
     The more we keep an open heart, and an open mind, the more clarity there will be for us, and the more improvement and change, if we think there should be, will be present.  Namaste.