Saturday, January 28, 2012

Avoiding Drama at All Cost

     I believe there comes a time for most
people, even the most theatrical of rock stars,
when drama becomes wearisome.  I think
it is called maturity, but for some it comes
quicker than for others.
     I think my son David is an example of a 
no nonsense, no drama type person, maybe
because I was once such a drama queen and
had friends who were highly dramatic as well.
     Perhaps I should have written this article
on my New Humanity blog since this is my blog
that I usually write about shopping, decorating,
clothes, cooking, etc, although I have not written
on all such topics yet.  I have learned to think
out loud or on print from listening to Dean
Koontz.  I read his and Stephen King's writing
more for their quirky sense of humor, than for
the scary stuff and violence.  They are really
not that violent.  Espionage novels are worse.
Truthfully, I am a little burned out on the
dark stuff, but my life is dark, so in a way the
light stuff makes me sad, because I do not
have that, if that makes any sense.
     I will not talk about the symptoms of RP
in this article.  Not looking for pity.  Pity is the
pits.  No one wants that.  So, how can one
give up or avoid drama?
     Stay away from people who make you crazy,
even if you think it might be your fault.  Chances
are it is not your fault.  Second, do not get
drunk, unless you are at a fabulous party, just
kidding. 
     Meditation, yoga and regular exercise, thinking
things through before lashing out, making 
better choices, even in the grocery store are good for starters.  Healthy
foods are good for the mind and body.  Take
vitamins like B-Complex and calcium, magnezium,
and zinc, also Omege-fatty acids are good for
the nerves and the heart.  Vitamin A is good 
for the eyes and if you do not get enough sunlight
due to sensitive eyes like me, vitamin D.
     Another way of avoiding drama is to pause,
breath, and try not to do the same things again,
expecting different results.  I still do this unfortunately,
and if I did not tell you I would be a big faker.
     A friend of mine called me up about two
different girlfriends who were being vendictive
and mean.  I said "what do these women have
in common?".  I said "you, so what do you 
suppose in you attracts this in these women or
attracts women like this?  What is your part in
this saga?"
      When I was going mainly by Sage as my
name, although it is still my nick name, I may
have well have gone by "Saga", a little joke here.
      Well that is all I have for today in the amateur
psychology department.  Stay tuned for more
invigorating articles.  Lots of love.  I know 
you all know all this, so if nothing else I hope 
you find my little piece of literature amusing.    

Sunday, January 22, 2012

A Little Gratitude on a Wonderful Day

     A few days ago was my son's birthday.
It was a hard time because he has not been 
well.  I was in turmoil and tribulation, although
it was not about me.
     His father and brother, a close friend and
a couple of other family members came after
work and school.  Ted, my son was not feeling
that social but was very sweet.
     I was touched that his father went out and
bought him a really nice present.  My mother
came by with a gift earlier and everyone brought
things, food, nuts, wings, candy.  I baked a
cake, a layer cake the night before, chocolate 
with vanilla icing and made tuna salad sandwiches.
      I know I was too emotional and made issues,
cried at one point, got mad at one point.  Now
I realize I should have just chilled, but we had
a nice party regardless, just a little family thing.
     Sometimes I fail to see the good in those 
around because I take everyone's inventory 
and act like life is a sport where you keep score.
This is my own character defect.  I see that 
now.
     I realize how wholesome the people near 
me are, how much good is in their hearts.  I
posted on facebook about my son's illness
and I can feel the love that has been sent his
way like rays of light and warmth.
      So, tonight a group of us sang in the recording
studio, choral part in a friend's album.  It 
turned out really smoothly and the timing was
officiant.  Overall it has been a good day.  I
feel gratitude and I know that God is running
the show not me.
     From now on I am going to be a better person
and less of a control freak, and I am going
to start appreciating every gesture of love, knowing
that even attacks, including my own are but
cries for love, which is the opposite of fear,
ACIM, a Course in Miracles.

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

A Little Shopping Expedition

     I am a little excited.  In my quest for autonomy and
independence today I found a store that sells some really 
good name-brand clothing for online competitive prices.
     As usual I had to ask what color the pants were, but I could not beat the price, and I could actually try them on.
     Now my query is whether or not to order crocs even though I have some red ones which I wear to walk the dog.  I kind of hate them, but they are something to throw on in a hurry.  I figured if I got a more sophisticated muted color, I would be satisfied.  I really
got the idea of buying crocs from my brother, also an online shopper.  He told me he got some yellow ones.  Ooh, that sounds - attractive.  
     So, I will have you know I am considering the khaki  
unisex ones or the ballet style pink ones.  As Dr. Phil and a few others might say, "and how's that workin' for ya?"  That is a very clever thing to say, but why does it
annoy me?  Perhaps it is just a tad bit condescending.
But, it is cute nonetheless.
    So that is my shopping report.  Stay tuned for more stimulating topics.

Monday, January 9, 2012

Why Does Life Make No Sense?

     I wanted to call this 'why life makes no sense', but I decided 'why does life make no sense?', question mark, because I do not know.  It seems like some of us incarnate into the wrong families in the wrong parts of the world, where we do not fit and even marry the wrong people.  
     Some of us go from situation to situation, relationship to relationship that do not work, try religions, cults, self-help groups, but the problems never go away.  If we have people in our lives who are toxic, it does not change, we just turn the other cheek and keep on getting smacked.
     I think Jesus said "turn the other cheek", but some people take it too far like 'turn the other cheek and go make cookies for the jerks that jumped you in the dark'.  I know this is extreme, but I actually know people naive enough to suggest such a thing.  I know they do not know what it is like to get jumped.  Otherwise they would not say anything so silly.
    How long can one wander in a place one does not belong?  Do others feel like I do sometimes?  Thoughts are universal, so I know they do.  It has been a difficult day.  Perhaps after the renewal of a good night sleep I will see things differently.  Sometimes things cannot go anywhere but up, and such a time is now.
     Someone told me I was wise today.  Perhaps this is true sometimes, but days like this it does not feel that way.